The overarching philosophy of integrative psychotherapy is to blend therapeutic ideas and techniques in ways that help us understand our relational and developmental needs.

But what are relational and developmental needs? And how does this translate to therapy work?

Relational and developmental needs

Integrative psychotherapy is underpinned by a philosophy that, as human beings, we are wired to need and seek satisfying relationships with others, including our main caregivers.

We hope to have relationships that meet our relational needs, which include the need to feel safe, valued, loved, and accepted.

Based on human development theory, our understanding of self and self-esteem emerges and develops from our experience of relationships with others.

The quality of the relationships we have, determines our unique experiences as we move through life from birth onwards.

And yet...

The quality of contact provided by those responsible for our care, may not always adequately meet our relational needs as we grow up. If this happens, it can create patterns that affect how we function in adult life.

For example, if our caregiver responded in a critical and judgemental way whenever we asked for something, we may receive the message that we’re not important or valued.

Over time, we might learn that it isn’t safe to express ourselves, which can become an unconscious pattern that repeats in adult relationships.

My integrative approach and how it can help

The above philosophy forms the basis of my own practice, but my specific approach may differ from other integrative psychotherapists. The main elements are:

• Not just about helping you to understand the past as end in itself but also how the past links to the present as a way of identifying which thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and behaviour are no longer helpful. This can provide a solid foundation for meaningful learning and growth.
• I'm focused on working with you to understand how you would like therapy to proceed. An example of this would be whether or not you would like to set any goals to provide a direction and focus for the therapy.
• I work with you collaboratively, because you know best whether therapy is working for you and what feels most helpful.
• I believe in sharing information about aspects of theory (psychoeducation) which could be helpful for your understanding, learning, and awareness of thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and behaviour.
• At different times, you might might find different things helpful. Sometimes you might like more structure/direction e.g. experiential activities, body work,  or exercises can help to consolidate learning and allow you to practice and embed new ways of thinking, feeling, or behaving outside the therapy room. At other times, you might prefer a non-directive approach.

Please get in touch if you're interested in working with me.